Better Sex Through Career Building (or Why You Should Put Your Career 1st and Your Family 2nd)

What if I told you should put career building before your family?

That despite what others tell you, your wife wants you to focus on your career (or your business) first. Then her and the kids.

What would you do if I proved that by doing this you’d be happier in your work, making more money, and enjoying a life with much better sex?

You’d listen to what I say. That’s what you’d do.

Well…

It’s time to listen

Focusing on career building isn’t hard for you. You’re a man, and that’s what men do. We’re driven by the work. Its in our DNA. It could easily be called our mission in life, and it’s pointless to fight it.

It’s okay. In fact, it’s healthy.

Not just in the physical and mental sense, but in the financial, emotional, and sexual sense too.

The problem is when you let your career, your mission, your business, or whatever, control you instead of you controlling it. And it’s really easy to know who’s controlling who.

Who’s in control?

Tell me if this sounds familiar…

Even while you sit at the dinner table with the family (if you still find time to eat a table together) you’re thinking about work in some form or another. You can hear your thoughts about work louder than the words being spoken at the table.

You’re there, but you’re not, and your family knows it.

They’re used to it by now, though. They continue on with their conversations knowing that you won’t remember most of what was said the next day. They’re not resentful, but they’re not exactly bursting at the seams with respect for you or for your work.

This is what your marriage has become.

You and your wife having what seems like passing moments of semi-memorable conversations that do nothing to strengthen the bond you have a husband and wife.

This, of course, means that you probably need a calendar to find out when was the last time you had sex. Was it a birthday, an anniversary, or some other “special” day that was way too long ago? It probably wasn’t that great either. In fact, I bet both of you wished you could have better sex.

This is the case with most families. You’re not really unhappy, but you’re not that shiny example of what you really want to be.

You know the one…

The man puts his all into the work that he loves, is highly paid for, and respected for. He comes home to happy kids who respect his authority, and he’s not afraid of what they do when they leave the house. His wife is so happy to see him at the end of the day that she’s ready to pull him into the bedroom and show him just how much.

That’s the dream, right?

Don’t lie. I’m a man too. I know how your brain works.

Wealth, respect, and better sex. Pretty much everything men think about revolves around these three things.

It’s okay. It’s how your brain works. Don’t fight it.

Here’s a little secret about your wife

She wants to be so enraptured by you that she can’t control herself. She wants to lose complete control with you – for you. Deep down she really does want you to have that kind of power over her.

Most men don’t have this power, and never will. Here’s why…

Most men are weak.

Not physically. Not financially. Not emotionally (although I’m sure a lot of women would disagree), and not mentally.

No, most men are weak in a vital area that’s almost always overlooked.

Priorities

Most men have the wrong priorities or they are afraid to admit what their real priorities are. Families pick up on this and subconsciously react by withholding their respect …and other things.

Most men will argue with this point – which you are most likely doing now.

Before we continue, think of it this way.

If your priorities were in order, you wouldn’t have read this far. You wouldn’t be trying to learn how to get more money, respect, and better sex. You’d have it. Fair enough? Good.

This means that you haven’t fully dedicated yourself to your career/business yet.

Think of your career/business as your mission.

Women (your wife) are turned on by a man on a mission. The world, as a whole, respects a man on a mission. Children look up to a man on a clear and honorable mission.

Like most men, your mission is scattered and unclear.

You’re stuck somewhere in the middle of “my work means more/my family means more”. Never giving your all to either of them when they need you.

“But I work to provide for my family. How is that not a clear mission? How is that not giving my all?”

Your family isn’t your mission

Your wife and kids don’t want to be your mission. They need to know that you stand for something else. They need to know that you’re their super hero.

Super heros have a mission. They fight for something specific. They don’t fight for the love of the people. The people love them because of their mission.

Your career, your business, is your mission. It’s where you spend most of your energy, thoughts, and life. Your family needs to know that it means everything to you.

They already know that you have them in your heart. That they inspire everything you do.

What they NEED to know is that you are unwavering. That you are, indeed, their super hero on a mission.

The same is true for your clients and coworkers.

If you want more wealth, respect, and better sex, make your mission priority number one. Be the super hero.

But they also need something else

Your wife, your kids, your clients, your co-workers, all need to know, without any doubt, that you are 100% theirs when you’re with them.

Your family needs to know that you’re not thinking about work when you’re eating with them. Your work needs to have your full attention when it’s time to get busy.

90% of the time you’re thinking about work when you’re with your family is because you didn’t give your all when it is was time. You were distracted or didn’t have a clear plan.

This can easily be avoided.

How to get more wealth, respect, and better sex

When you plan your day, stick to your plan, focus, and get your work done, you are able to give your all to your career (your mission).

This might seem tough (especially if you work from home) but to get more wealth, respect, and better sex you must set some boundaries in place now.

• set specific work hours and do not break them.
• if you have a career with set office hours, DO NOT BRING WORK HOME.
• coordinate with your wife or other local family members to help handle the kids during work time so you can work without distraction.
• let everyone know your work hours, and that you WILL NOT reply to emails or whatever except during those hours. Period.
• Tell everyone your mission.
• DO NOT LET YOURSELF GET DISTRACTED DURING WORK HOURS. (twitter, FB, Google+, email, texts, your favorite guilty pleasure, etc.)
• DO NOT DISTRACT YOURSELF WITH WORK WHEN YOU ARE WITH YOUR FAMILY.

Your family will be more fulfilled, and respect you more, with 30 minutes a day of undivided attention (that they can see is actually undivided) than they will with a few hours of your weak, divided presence.

Give them a lot more than 30 minutes.

You may be able to fool your kids (only when they’re younger), but your wife will always know when your heart isn’t in it.

There is nothing more attractive to your wife than you proving you are dedicated to your career (your mission) with your whole heart as equally as you are to her.

When you put your career building first, in a way that does NOT neglect your family, your wife’s trust and security in you will grow as will her desire to prove it to you (aka – better sex).

What’s one thing you are going to today to set your boundaries?