Do you know where the bulk of your inspiration comes from?
Like some kind of brilliant flash of genius the other day, I realized that most of my greatest inspiration (especially when it comes to my business) has come from times when I was chilling with the family. Not from reading an incredible blog post, or working my way through someone’s free guides for entrepreneurs, or even chatting with folks in the most amazing community ever. Although all of those are indeed very inspiring, the quality time I spend with my beautiful wife and girls is where most of my greatest business ideas comes from.
Quantity or Quality
How much quality time do you spend with your family? Not how much time, but how much quality time? Do you know the difference?
Many folks think that just because they run their business from home and are around the family all day means that they’re spending more quality time with the kids or with their spouse. I know, because that used to be me. The thing is, I might as well be running my business from an office somewhere else when I’m working. I’m not really paying any attention to what’s going on in the living room. I’ve even tried working in the living room just so I could be visible by the girls while I work (as if proximity had anything to do with it). Sure, I’m spending “time” with them, but there’s no engagement or even any real parenting for that matter. I might as well not even be there.
The Quantity Family
We’ve all been around the family that seemed to have it all – money, toys, spontaneous vacations, etc.. However, the kids are often terrible, with no respect for their parents, and the husband and wife might as well be two angry ex’s that happen to be in the same place. I bet at least one, if not both, of the them is a workaholic and a slave to their “perfect business model“.
This isn’t how they started. Once upon a time they loved and respected each other, but somewhere along the line the system began to break down. The inspiration and motivation that originally fueled the entrepreneurial spirit, slowly became the poison that tainted the family’s success.
The workaholic spends every waking minute thinking about work. Always responding to every email as soon as it hits the inbox, always taking calls, always on the pulse thanks to his handy dandy “smart” phone, and never really gives full attention to those around him. As a result, the wife and kids know that his work is more important than they are. At first they accept it because he supports the family and he does a very good job at it. Eventually they’ll start to resent the business and him. It’s almost as if he has created an entirely new family that they have to compete with. Sure, he may spend a lot of time around them, but he’s not spending any time WITH them.
It’s easy to let building a business for your family’s future and success become your excuse to work all the time and not have to deal with them. Strangely enough, we can spend so much time focusing on business that it can become easier than spending time and interacting with family.
That’s messed up.
Did this hit close to home?
If any of this sounded a little too familiar, it’s time for you to reevaluate your priorities in life. Maybe even rethink how you view success.
Do you feel like you’re slowly heading down this path?
If so, now is the time to act.
Explain in the comments below how your going to turn this train around and get your family back on the right track.